You manage everyone else’s feelings brilliantly.
You can’t bear your own.
You don’t have to keep being your own worst enemy.
ONLINE RELATIONAL PSYCHOTHERAPY & EMDR FOR SHAME, SELF-CRITICISM AND COMPLEX FAMILY DYNAMICS
Does This Sound Like You?
People have always had opinions about how you feel – too emotional, too sensitive, too much – so you’ve learned to contain it. And mostly it works.
But when you’re alone it’s a different story.
The feelings that had nowhere to go all day arrive at once. You replay conversations for hours. You feel a rage that frightens you and then feel disgusted at yourself for it. You cry without knowing what about. You lie completely still and don’t know what to call what you’re feeling, only that it’s enormous.
Sometimes you think you’re losing your mind. You don’t tell anyone. You’ve worked so hard to meet everyone else’s expectations, but inside, you feel stuck, lost and don’t really know who you are.
The self-loathing is always there, noting everything. Every mistake, every slightly wrong thing you said, every time you were too much or not enough. You’ve lived with it for so long it just feels like there’s something wrong with you.
If this sounds familiar, you’re in the right place.
Online relational psychotherapy and EMDR for shame, self-criticism and complex family dynamics.
How I Work
The here and now
Humanistic Integative
We start with where you are today, with everything that makes you who you are – not just your thoughts, but your feelings, your body, your patterns, the whole of how you experience being you. We work with all of it, not just the parts that are easiest to put into words.
Where it came from
Relational
We look at the relationships and environments that shaped you, often long before you had words for any of it. This isn’t about blame. It’s about understanding why you are the way you are – and finding that you don’t have to stay that way.
What talking can't reach
EMDR
Some things don’t shift through conversation alone. If there are experiences that still live in your body – that feel present even when you know they’re over – EMDR works at that level. It helps your brain process what got stuck, so the past can finally start to feel like the past.
The way your brain works
Neurodivergent affirming
If you’ve spent your life feeling slightly out of step, masking in ways that exhaust you, or wondering whether there’s a name for the way your brain works, you don’t need a diagnosis to be here. My work is neurodivergent-affirming throughout.
Hello I’m Alice,
I’m a BACP Accredited Psychotherapist with over a decade of experience. I specialise in working with people healing from childhood trauma and the impact of growing up with emotionally immature parents and I bring both professional training and lived experience to all of it. I work relationally, using a humanistic integrative approach alongside EMDR which means we work at the root cause, not just the symptoms.
Life can feel impossibly hard when you’ve spent years navigating difficult relationships, constant self-criticism, or the emotional fallout of growing up with parents who weren’t equipped to meet your emotional needs. The exhaustion of masking, of never quite feeling good enough, of holding it together on the outside while quietly falling apart on the inside – I get it. Not just as a therapist, but as someone who has been through the kind of darkness that makes you question if things can ever get better. (Spoiler: it really can.)
Not ready to book yet? Come and listen to my podcast.
If you want to get a feel for how I think before we speak, I host a weekly podcast with fellow therapist Carly Radford. Too Much, Apparently is for people who’ve spent their whole lives being told they feel too much, think too much and need too much.
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Alice Tew
Read my blog…
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